OOTD: And I Don’t Know What I’m Supposed To Do, Cause If She Feels Bad Then I Do Too

I mention my partner Nightrider on here from time to time. She and I have been together for 2 and  a half years and I couldn’t imagine sharing my life with anyone else. About 8 months into our relationship, which was about 2 months after she and her 3 children moved in with me she began to get very ill. She was having a very difficult time sleeping, was experience extreme bouts of vertigo, was having short-term memory loss and seemed confused in social situations or when things got too chaotic even around the house. She began seeing doctor after doctor and was eventually referred to a neurologist who did a number of MRIs  and a spinal tap. The results of the test indicated that she had a number of lesions on her brain and it was what we had worried, Multiple Sclerosis.

If you are unfamiliar with Multiple Sclerosis the information on the disease can be found here.  The  basics are

Multiple sclerosis (or MS) is a chronic, often disabling disease that attacks the central nervous system (CNS), which is made up of the brain, spinal cord, and optic nerves. Symptoms may be mild, such as numbness in the limbs, or severe, such as paralysis or loss of vision. The progress, severity, and specific symptoms of MS are unpredictable and vary from one person to another. Today, new treatments and advances in research are giving new hope to people affected by the disease.

They say the first year of MS is definitely the hardest, and for our family it was no exception. It was probably the hardest year of my life and it wasn’t even happening to my body. Multiple Sclerosis flares (when it gets really bad) are caused a lot of the time by stress and you can imagine that during the first year of coming to terms with a possibly debilitating disease, not to mention all the tests she had to go under, and money that had to be shelled out to doctors her stress was off the charts. somedays she could hardly walk around are house, other days she would be fine, sometimes she couldn’t handle being around more than one person at a time, she never seemed to sleep, and so and so on.She had to quit her job and was spending all of her time trying different medications and visiting doctors and just trying to keep it together.  Needless to say it was hard, but we got through it, got her on the right medications and now things are going much better for her. One good thing that came out of her having MS and that first rough year though is now I truly know we can get through anything as long as we do it together. Nothing can strengthen love more than something this life altering and I have never doubted for one second even on the hardest days that she is the person I want to spend my life with.

I do what I can to support the MS Foundation and others like it. I have participated in MS Walks with my friends and family and our first year we raised $800 in one week. I was unable to participate this year due to that horrible cold I had but next year we will be at it again raising money for TEAM NIGHTRIDER and working towards finding a cure for MS.

Ok so the point of all of this and how this relates to fatshion which is what this blog is about you ask?
Recently I have started using the company Shoe Dazzle. You have probably heard of them from other bloggers and I have mentioned them before as well, but I hadn’t made a purchase yet until last month when the Nancy Shoe showed up in my showroom. This shoe was special because 10% of proceeds from sales on this shoe is going to the  Nancy Davis Foundation for treatment and research for Multiple Sclerosis.  I received the Nancy shoe (which is amazing and cute and I LOVE IT) a few weeks back and I finally had a chance to shoot them in an outfit this weekend with Candace Sweet.  Since this isn’t the most fluffy happy post ever I decided it better be an outfit that makes me feel fabulous and happy so I picked my happiest brightest piece that you have seen before but styled for winter.  Its Spring, actually Summer but still rainy and feels like Spring so its time to see the Spring/Summer Styling of my Polkdot Multicolor Dress from ASOS Curve.




Photos in Eagle, Idaho by Candace Sweet <<<< FOLLOW HER ON FACEBOOK!

For the warmer months I just really want to be comfortable and this dress is great for that, I probably could have gone down a size in this dress but I love the way it fits me and the loose light material will easily get me through the hot Boise summers. I sometimes wear a corset belt with this dress but not today and I wanted it loose-fitting and comfortable. I also am very aware of my insanely white legs but I am a natural red head and if I’m not pale I’m bright red, but I love my skin and I take good care of it so its perfect in my eyes. I didn’t do much accessorizing with this outfit because i really think it is loud enough of its own and with the great detail in the heels, (especially the zippers on the backs OMG LOVE!) I think it makes a great standout outfit with very little effort!

Before I end this post I wanted to share where I got the title. When I do outfit posts I like to use lyrics from songs that I think either fit the look or the nature of the post. This is one of those that speaks more to my feelings about Nightrider and MS. Rob Thomas released a song about a year ago called Her Diamonds which was written for his wife in regards to her illness Lyme Disease, while it is not the same as MS I could really relate to this beautiful song and it really got my through some tough times when Nightrider’s MS has been at its worse. It’s a beautiful song with a deep meaning for anyone who has ever loved someone who was sick and I wanted to share it as well.


I know this was a hefty post but it really comes from my heart and was something I wanted to share with my readers. We spend so much time picking apart petty little things and spending time on such useless and counterproductive drama (especially as of late around the fatosphere) but there are so many more important things in our lives, like family and friends and the real trials and tribulations, moments of celebration and love in our lives. For me these are the most important things, the things I give my energy to and I encourage you all to let the people you care about know you care about them, spread some love to those in need and maybe take a break from the things that take away joy from your day like all the controversy. I stay out of drama,even when i’m being thrown under the bus for not participating in the drama, because I have enough of reality in my life that is far more important to me, and this blog is simple a release, pleasure and a love and I honestly won’t let it be tainted by anything else.

xoxo
Stiletto